You don’t need to wait for anything to be more confident in your life. Just tell yourself “I’m going to be more confident today” and aim your focus towards it. Real confidence is about your ability to express who you really are and go after the things you really desire. Therefor just decide to be your authentic self, belief in yourself and in the direction you’re going. Knowing who you are, and being consistent about it already attributes a great deal in your level of confidence.

A huge mistake many people make is to tie their confidence to how they look, the things they don’t have, or what they are embarrassed about,… For example they say: “I’m not confident because I don’t like my hair”. Confidence shouldn’t be tied to those external things. The external things in your life will always shift, and eventually you will never achieve the confidence that you deserve. In the next few sections you’ll find the habits confident people have in their life. Each habit is not something you do once, but it’s something you should daily.

Habit 1: Connect with the future

Habit 2: Take small steps forward

People become confident when they make progress. Progress can only be made when action is taken. Therefor confident people set an intention or activity that is in line with their dream, or aspiration and commit to do that activity. The process of making progress and committing to your plan and intentions grows massive confidence. Don’t wait for the perfect plan, time, or person to come but just plan what’s next and keep moving forward consistently in small steps. As soon as you take the first step, next steps will follow out of it as you move forward. As you take action forward, you will also gain more competency and skill which as a result increases confidence.

Habit 3: Integrate your wins

Every time you make a step forward it’s time to take a moment, generate a feeling of accomplishment and celebrate it. Confident people don’t wait for the final outcome to be confident, but they give themselves credit for the progress their making along the way. No matter how hard the road still will be in the future, no matter how many obstacles you will have to tackle, acknowledge you’ve already came a long way. Confident people reward themselves based on effort done, and not the final outcome. If you acknowledge that you’ve came a long way, your believe in your ability to figure things out in the future will also increase.

Habit 4: Practice positive self-talk

A great part of your confidence level is tied to how you treat yourself and what words you speak about yourself. Confident people talk to themselves with positive self-talk and are fueled with positive thoughts. They tell themselves things like “I’m good enough, I can do that” or “I trust in my ability to figure things out”. If you’re drowned in negative self-talk today, take your time to analyze what you think and train yourself to convert it to something good. Think: positive outcomes, be grateful instead of angry, be excited instead of fearful, think challenges instead of problems,…

Habit 5: Act confident

Confident people have created the habit of acting confident towards other people. They do that by improving their posture, body language, voice, and the way they dress,… This adjustment of physical behaviors impacts the mind letting it believe you are truly confident. In order to act confident you don’t need to follow complex courses or trainings. With some little adjustments to your behavior, you already can make an incredible amount of progress.

End note

You’ll have bad days, but don’t let them define you. You are worth it, you can do more than you think. Human potential is unlimited.